Karl H. Timmerman M.A.J.D. 2003
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NOVEMBER 21, 2003

The "Ramblings" are a series of emails sent, for the most part, on Friday night, to the Solo and Small Firm Internet Group, (SFIG),  Listserve.  Compiled here are the Ramblings for 2002 - 2003.  They contain my random thoughts and observations on current events and the posts made to the SFIG during that week. They are the Ramblings of a small town, (Holden, population 2,700), Missouri, country lawyer.
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Greets and Huggers.  Posted the evening of November 21, 2003.  So .... did you check into this life with an "owners manual"?  No? Relying on "after market" products, the Bible, Quran, the Veda's ..... (still trying to find the chapter dealing with ex-wives in the Bible.)  Guess the process of living, "life", is on the job training.  You make mistakes and learn from them, (some folks don't  ....  keep making the same mistakes ..... over and over and over .... job security for us).  Observation.  When a relationship dies, the parties go through the same 5 steps that folks who find out they have a terminal illness go through, (See Elizabeth Kubler Ross, "On Death and Dying":   http://www.elisabethkublerross.com/pages/Quotes.html ).  The 3rd in the 5 steps, is "anger".  It really isn't "anger" but pain converted to "anger".  Share with me .... where did you go to school to learn how to deal with pain? Another "trial and error" thing.  Meds can take care of most physical pain .... but mental/soul pain is another matter .... don't know of any med that can stop the pain of loss.  'Taint none.  When you are involved in the death of a relationship, pain comes in waves .... unless dissipated ......  a growing bag full of hurt sitting in your gut.  Some folks deal with that pain, when it becomes overwhelming .... by converting the pain to "anger".  "Anger" you can push out. "Anger" can be used as a weapon and a shield against the person that caused the pain. The bad news: anger does not promote healing. Anger is a "displacement behavior" .... something you do to avoid dealing with the real issue:  the underlying pain.  So, how do you deal with the pain of loss?  Pain is like standing on a beach during a storm .... it comes in waves  ......  you see the waves coming at you .... the "normal" reaction?  .... you anchor yourself ...... you tense up .... hold your breath .... ready to fight the wave ... avoid the wave  ....  wrong strategy!!!!   To grow, you don't fight the wave  ....   you celebrate the wave .... you let the wave hit you .... you weep .... you mourn  .... you cry for your loss.   Got news .... it's OK to cry .... it's OK to mourn. Isn't our ability to cry .... our ability to feel the loss .... our ability mourn ... that, which makes us human?  The next wave is not as tall.  The one after is smaller yet.  Until you only have "ripples".  There will always be "ripples".  There will always be a memory that will trigger a smile .... there will always be a memory that triggers an ache.  "There is no joy without hardship.  If not for death, would we appreciate life?  If not for hate, would we know the ultimate goal is love? At these moments you can either hold on to negativity and look for blame, or you can choose to heal and keep on loving."  Elizabeth Kubler Ross.   'Nuff said.

I'm "big boned" ... am now and always have been but my bones have shrunk a tad  :)  
http://www.karltimmerman.com/kht101403.html After researching the "Atkins Diet", "South Beach Diet", ad nauseam ....  after reading an interesting article by Dr. Mercola,   http://www.mercola.com/article/carbohydrates/scientific_evidence_low_grains.htm I've come up with my own diet.  The "AD" and "SBD" for me, have flaws.  "AD" is restrictive ... limiting carbs .... difficult to make into a "life style".   "SBD" sets a limit on the intake of carbs, (doesn't share how many) but counts on eating a combination of  protein and "complex" carbs. For me, too difficult on a day to day basis.   After reading that 10,000 years ago .... as a species .... our bodies had evolved to "store" carbs as fat, (seems we used to run around the forest eating dead stuff and "kibbles and twigs" .... our bodies stored the "kibbles and twigs" as fat ... to give us time to find more dead stuff).  I elected to go with my own diet:  a high protein and measured usable carb, low fat diet. "Usable" carbs are total carbs minus "fiber" carbs.  My diet is based upon the "glycemic index" http://diabetes.about.com/library/mendosagi/nmendosagi.htm. In the last 3 months, I have gone from a size 48 "Portly", (the "Portly" means I had a 48" x 32" pants instead of 46" x 32" pants) suit,  to a 44 Regular suit. I can now buy my cloths "off the shelf":  don't need to go to "Emil the Tent Maker" any more :)   I 'm not a dietitian .... I'm just sharing what has worked for me:  eliminate simple carbs from your diet, (simple carbs are any "processed" carbs i.e. sugar, processed bread, (any bread not made from whole grains), processed rice, pasta, potatoes etc.  ....  in short  .... anything your body can turn into blood sugar quickly).  Take a multivitamin and a fiber supplement, (like "Fiber Choice" sugar free tabs). Eat an apple every day. Limit your alcohol consumption, (every drop of alcohol has to be "burned" by your body first ... before your body starts to burn stored fat).  The following are carb count tables, compiled and averaged from several different sources:

VEGETABLES                                                                          CARBOHYDRATE COUNT
6 fresh or frozen asparagus spears                                                                   3
cup cauliflower                                                                                               4
1 cup Jicama                                                                                                      6
1 stalk broccoli                                                                                                  8
cup green beans (boiled)                                                                               3
cup cabbage (boiled)                                                                                      4
3 pieces celery                                                                                                   4
1 ear of corn                                                                                                     16
1 cup cooked sweet peas                                                                                 22
baked potato (4 X 2 )                                                                                25
cup potato salad                                                                                           20
1 tomato (medium)                                                                                           10
1 cup Navy beans                                                                                            40
1 cup black eyed peas                                                                                     34
1 cup split peas                                                                                                52
1 cup lima beans                                                                                              50
1 cup red kidney beans                                                                                   42
1 cup soy beans                                                                                               22
1 cup sauerkraut                                                                                             10
1 cup peppers (red, green or yellow)                                                               5
cup spinach                                                                                                   4
sweet potato                                                                                                   38
1 small squash                                                                                                16
cup Italian style vegetables                                                                       14
cup Japanese style vegetables                                                                  10
1 cup mushrooms (raw)                                                                                  10
cup coleslaw                                                                                                10

FRUITS                                                                                    CARBOHYDRATE COUNT     
1 apple                                                                                                             18
1 banana                                                                                                          26
1 cup blackberries                                                                                          19
1 cup blueberries                                                                                            21
1 cup raspberries                                                                                            13
1 peach (2 inches)                                                                                       10
1 cup pineapple                                                                                               19
1 orange (medium)                                                                                         18
1 cup strawberries                                                                                          14
cantaloupe                                                                                                  14
cup cherries                                                                                                13
grapefruit (pink)                                                                                         12
1 cup grapes                                                                                                   16
1 pear (3 inches)                                                                                         24
1 kiwi (medium)                                                                                              10
honeydew                                                                                                    17

BREADS, CEREALS, GRAINS                                             CARBOHYDRATE COUNT      
2 tablespoons all purpose flour                                                                      12
2 tablespoons cornmeal (whole grain)                                                           10
2 pieces melba toast                                                                                         4
cup pasta (noodles, macaroni, spaghetti)                                                  25
1 slice pizza (9 inch diameter)                                                                        30
1 cup brown, wild, long grain rice                                                                  30
1 small dinner roll                                                                                          14
1 waffle (plain)                                                                                                26
1 small bagel                                                                                                  27
1 large bagel                                                                                                   50
1 slice bread (White)                                                                                      22
1 slice Whole Wheat, (Stone Ground)                                                             8
4 regular crackers                                                                                            7
1 pancake (from mix)                                                                                     12
1 bun (hamburger or hot dog)                                                                        22
1 cup oatmeal                                                                                                 22

                            CARBOHYDRATE COUNT                     
1 blueberry muffin                                                                                          17
vanilla shake                                                                                                  60
banana split                                                                                                    95
lb. cheeseburger                                                                                         30
1 waffle                                                                                                           28
1 pancake                                                                                                       15
1 slice apple pie                                                                                              62
1 cup ice cream                                                                                              49
glazed donut                                                                                                   22
2 slices French toast                                                                                     40
1 slice pizza                                                                                                    26
1 egg roll                                                                                                        30
cup lemon sherbet                                                                                     40
onion rings (fast food)                                                                                   40
onion rings (fast food) one bite, then sucking the onion out                       10
1 slice pecan pie                                                                                            42
1 hot dog with roll                                                                                          22

The heart of the program is counting usable carbs and a scale to weigh yourself, (get a good digital scale).  Your body needs carbs: you have to have carbs in your diet, just not as many,  nor processed: dietary fiber removed.  My program is NOT a "diet".  You have to change what and the way you eat.  Like "SBD", it has 3 phases:  a body conversion phase, a weight loss phase and a maintenance phase.  Here is my program:  tomorrow, (or next Saturday)  hehehe ......  pig out!!!! Start your new way of eating on Sunday.  For the next two weeks, limit your carb intake to 20 carbs per day .... you should loose 8 - 13 pounds from your g+b, (gut and butt).  Thereafter, limit your daily carb intake to 35 - 40 carbs, (you want to loose 1/2 - 1 1/2 pounds per week), 35 -40 carbs per day as a function of your individual daily activity levels. Stay on phase 2 until you loose the weight you want.  Once there, go to 70 - 80 carbs per day.   Weigh yourself EVERY day before you take your bath/shower ..... that is the only way you will know YOUR necessary carb intake levels.  Please note:  there is no way in hell you are going to loose weight munching down 5,000 protein calories a day    .....   gimme a break!  Keep your caloric intake to around a low fat 2,200 calories per day.  Use some common sense :)

Attended the Committee Meetings in Jeff City today.  Was privileged to have my dear young friend Lyle Gregory carpool with me.  Took some pics which I will post later.  I'm proud of myself ... hehehe ... I only ate 1/2 of the cheese cake:).  Was great to give and get a bunch of warm hugs from "family" members.  The Solo and Small Form Practice Committee Meeting was interesting. 'Nuff said.

Sitting here editing these Ramblings, sipping on some BBB ..... and thinking about what the future has in store for our little "Family".  Guess we'll see.  Was surprised that no one posted/commented about Massachusetts's Supreme Court clearing the way for same sex unions/marriages.  If there is a debate, I would love to see it here .... this little "house" is what the best and brightest lawyers in the State of Missouri call "home".  So share with me how a State not recognizing a Massachusetts marital contract could pass Constitutional muster?  Ever hear of "Full Faith and Credit"?  From the news:  Don't know if Michael Jackson is a "kiddie diddler" or not  ......  after all the whispering behind his back  ....  all the innuendo .... he will have his day in Court.  Wonder how many other alleged "kiddie diddlers" had to post a 3 million dollar bond this week?  Home is where my Susan is  ....  she is my heart:  was wonderful to give her a hug and kiss when I got home.   Look forward to holding her close while drifting off to sleep tonight ...... after saying a prayer for our little "family", for our America, for Pat Lester et ux,  Susan and I,  you and our men and women in uniform and their families.  Be and sleep well, the best there is, is on watch.  If my post offends ....  I apologize ..... that is not my intent.
Karl (the dumb ole country lawyer from Holden, Missouri)