Karl H. Timmerman M.A.J.D. 2004
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A MISSOURI LAWYER'S
FRIDAY NIGHT RAMBLINGS

FOR
AUGUST 20, 2004


These are the Ramblings of a small town, (Holden, population 2,700), Missouri, country lawyer. They contain my random thoughts and observations on current events and my life and experiences in the Solo Practice of law.
Compiled here are the Ramblings for 2002 - 2004. 
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10-03-03  10-10-03  10-17-03
 
10-24-03  10-31-03  11-07-03
 
11-14-03  11-21-03  11-28-03
 
12-05-03  12-12-03  12-19-03
 
12-26-03 

                      2004
 
01-02-04  01-09-04  01-16-04
 
01-23-04  01-30-04  02-06-04
 
02-13-04  02-20-04  02-27-04
 
03-05-04  03-12-04  03-19-04
 
03-29-04  04-02-04  04-09-04
 
04-16-04  04-23-04  04-30-04
 
05-07-04  05-14-04  05-21-04
 
05-28-04  06-11-04  06-18-04
 
06-25-04  07-09-04  07-16-04
 
07-23-04  07-30-04  08-06-04
 
08-13-04  08-20-04

 

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Greets and Huggers.  Posted the evening of  August 20, 2004.   Strange:  for some reason, seems after "Fat Louie" died, I have become aware, have noticed, folks passing. Never really noticed it before. Awhile back, for me, some old guy croaking went un-noticed. Since the death of "Fat Louie", I read the obituaries.  Used to look at them every once in awhile, years ago: never saw a name I recognized. Now, I do. Why is that? How do you make sense of death? How do you, NOT fear death? (hehehe ... talk to someone that owns the t-shirt?  If you know someone who has one, please call me :)  Share with me, what is there to fear? Pain? Loss?  The process of dying can, could, be painful: chose your Doctor well, (I have).  Is this reality all there is? Is the human definition of "reality" ... the here and now  ... all there is?  Could, that which is you and I  ... a blip of energy ... cease to exist upon our "death"? Would be illogical to think so, wouldn't it? We exist as a physical shell that is powered by the energy which is us: a unique life. Our physical being is matter, over a lifetime expended, becoming/converted into the energy which makes us ... the discrete ... us. The unique energy which is us, is are part of a whole. We are part of a process, which some call "reality" and that, which others call, God. There is nothing to fear: when the time comes, "death" is only a transition from one state of being into another because energy can not be created, nor destroyed ... it can only change form.   Guess that leaves the issue of "judgment".   So share with me:  where does "judgment" fit in?  Do you really believe there is "good" energy and "evil" energy? Who/what would judge? God?  Could it be "good" and "evil", are human definitions, to further necessary human societal goals? For example: is the taking of life/potential life "evil"?   <smiling>  ...  if you eat, haven't you taken life. Becomes a question of degree/definition doesn't it?  Absent "Divine Mandate", (Divine Mandate:  the arrogant belief that God has given us, as a life form, dominion over all other life forms, to do with as we wish: to play God),  what is the difference between eating/killing an apple and aborting a fetus?  Aren't both seeds, potential life? Why would one have greater value in God's eye than the other? Why are we, as a species, a life form, "special" in God's eye? Because we claim to be created in His/Her image? Because we believe God is love and we as a species, believe, we are the only life form capable of love, (share your life with a dog ... or cat .... and learn how wrong that belief is!!).  So, you believe, that, that than which nothing greater can be conceived to exist, omniscient, all powerful, after creating all there is, found it necessary to create a life form, whose sole function is to worship Him/Her? Why? For what? Creating all there is?  Oh ... and also, giving this life form the option, freedom of choice ... of deciding not to?  It is easier by far, not to question.  Perhaps the fact that we do question, is that, which separates us from an apple:  is that, which makes us "special" in God's eye. The ability to marvel at His/Her creations and be critical of them. Perhaps it is the gift of unfettered potential "awareness", (potential, in the sense that some will chose to become aware, to question, and others will chose not to).  I write these Ramblings not because I have answers:  I don't.  I write these Ramblings to question and perhaps by doing so, cause you to question.

My folks celebrated their 56th wedding anniversary this week, (Susan and I will celebrate our 8th on Tuesday).  In November, my Dear Friend Hermann Eisele's parents will be celebrating their 50th. 50 years together.  Geez!  ....  photographs don't last that long. How could a marriage?  Sadly, there appears to be a trend for
older folks to divorce.   "There are three reasons for the rise in the divorce rate among older Americans ... People are living longer than before and managing to maintain their youthfulness. We are changing the way we view commitments And there's a growing social support for a new model of maturity. Divorce is not only a growing trend among elders, but becoming more "acceptable" as well ...)" Guess, "I do" now means ... "I probably will."  I am reminded of the song Clint Black, (a "country western" artist), wrote and sang: "When I said I do"  ....

"When I said I do, I meant that I will 'til the end of all time
Be faithful and true, devoted to you
That's what I had in mind when I said I do"

Divorce was unheard of in my parents generation.  Course, so was sex ... <shuddering> ... (don't even want to think about MY mom and dad doing IT, (although I don't have a problem thinking about Les Steinberg's mom and dad engaging in the marital appurtenances)).  Based on responses from 1,148 divorced men and women ages 40 to 79 who divorced in their 40s, 50s or 60s,  according to a
survey conducted by Andrew Cherlin, professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University, in Baltimore: 87 percent of men dated after their divorce, vs. 79 percent of women, (age plays a role: 88 percent of women in their 40s dated, vs. 79 percent of women in their 60s and older).  57 percent of men and 54 percent of women who remarried now say they have sex at least once a week; 77 percent of unmarried female divorcees say they never have sex, vs. 49 percent of the unmarried men. (On a side note:  I did a divorce a couple of years back for an older gentleman, (retired military, 85 years old) because he felt his wife, a younger woman, (79), was cheating on him. "Colonel", I asked, "why would you think your wife is cheating on you?"  Turning beet red, he replied, "Mr. Timmerman, we have been making love three times a week our whole marriage.  For the last several months, we are down to two times a week.  She must be getting some on the side!!"  She was:  with a 75 year old.)  The lesson is obvious:  49 percent of those reporting unmarried men need to get out there and put a smile on the lips of those 77 percent reporting unmarried females!!!

Sitting here editing these Ramblings, sipping on some Port and watching the evening news.  Looking forward to meeting friends in St Louis tomorrow at the
Wolf Sanctuary. Wrote a Ramblings warning about Avian Flu, (H5N1), last February:  "A [H7N2]  and A [H5N1] are classified by CDC as "highly pathogenic" because within 6 months to a year they mutate."  on the news tonight, the virus has crossed over to pigs. "A senior Chinese health official disclosed on Friday that her country had found a lethal strain of avian influenza among pigs at several farms, a discovery that could move the virus one step closer toward becoming a global problem for humans." Remember the Swine Flu?   Be worried.   An interesting piece on ABC World News:  in the original Olympics, the athletes competed in the nude.  Would that help TV ratings or what?  Bet the Greco-Roman Wrestling event would sell out in San Francisco's sports bars! Sure would give new meaning to "pay-per-view"!!

I suppose I spent a bit of time thinking about death this week:  read all of your posts and thoughts.  I dawns on me that I do not fear my death.  I do fear Susan's death.  I can not picture my life without her laying next to me at night.  I can not picture a life, where her heart is not beating, where she is not playing or surrounded by her "furry babies".   We all have a limited amount of time before our bodies are consumed, converted back into energy and become, one once again, a part of the whole, (as some believe, "Sit on the right hand of God"). I pray these Ramblings have caused you to smile, to pause and to take a moment and reflect on the questions posed, (and please, please, please  ... keep our men and women in uniform in your thoughts/prayers).  Be and sleep well, knowing the best there is, is on watch, so you can. If my post offends ... I apologize ... that is not my intent.   As always ...

A Warm Brotherly Hug
Karl (the dumb ole country lawyer from Holden, Missouri)